The fine print, but friendlier

Your photos, your rules

Photos live in private storage and are never given a public link. Approved regular photos appear on your discovery card for signed-in members. Locked photos stay hidden until you choose to unlock one for a match.

Anything you mark explicit arrives blurred and stays blurred until it is tapped, and blurs again when the page is left. That is a courtesy to whoever is looking, not a lock. Once someone can see a photo at all, they can save it.

Unmatching closes locked-photo access and the conversation immediately, for both of you.

What sticks around

Messages, Pillow Talk, match voice notes, and unsigned Wall sounds are deleted after 90 days. Audio never autoplays. Photos are deleted when an account is banned, or once your matches have all been over for more than a week.

Your date of birth is checked when you sign up and then discarded. Your city is never shown on a card; it only feeds the “near me” filter.

The velvet rope

Women are welcome here. That includes cis women and trans women. Transfemmes and non-binary people are welcome too. Trans women are women.

Men can exist in fantasies and scenario cards, but not as member accounts. The people inside the building are members of this community, not characters dealt by the house.

The site is invite only. Every account is attached to whoever invited it, all the way back to a founding account.

Discover is about shared interests. “Who I am” labels are yours to share and are never search filters. They do not appear on Discover cards or public member pages.

Voice is always a gift and never a toll. No room, ritual, match, or feature requires anyone to record or play audio.

Match-only games

The Mutual Button reveals nothing unless both people choose it during the same house-day. Sealed answers stay sealed until both people answer. Permission Slips and Pick For Me are temporary, limited to the choice printed on the card, and revocable by the person who handed them over.

Shared Drawer photos, voice notes, links, and lines stay inside an active match. Each person gets one slot, replacing it destroys the old offering, and unmatching empties the drawer immediately.

Terms require both signatures before a scene begins. Either person may stop at any time. Sending the exact safeword stops the scene and opens a gentle check-in. The site can hold the agreement in view, but it cannot decide whether a sentence respects a boundary.